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Dear Agony Editor,

I want nothing more than to be a published author, but I’m tired of the constant rejection. It feels like I’ll never see my work published. I can only try so much longer before my soul is permanently crushed. How do you know when it’s time to give up?

Signed,

Rejected

Dear Rejected,

I’m sorry you’re having a rough time. 

The road to publishing is never as clear cut or as gleaming as we’d like to believe. That’s also true for published writers. Just because you’ve published a book, it doesn’t mean your next book will see the light of day. Nothing is ever guaranteed in this industry. 

Try to remember that the rejection you’re experiencing is something all writers deal with at one time or another. Also remember that the rejection isn’t personal: it’s not you that’s being passed over, it’s your work. I understand the two can become conflated but try to maintain a clear line between both.

There could also be reasons you’re not getting picked up that have nothing to do with you or the quality of your writing. 

I think every successful writer has equal parts talent and tenacity. Chances are good that writers who don’t give up, who believe in themselves, and are convinced there’s an audience for their work, will usually make it to the other side of the publishing mountain. 

A healthy dose of anger can be a good motivator, too. Seek out bad books. They’re a reminder that if mediocre writers can get published, there’s no reason you shouldn’t. Never lose sight of the void – remember the empty space your book will fill. Think of the readers who will never connect with your work. Think of your characters whose stories will never be told if you give up. 

But if the constant rejection is affecting your morale, consider taking a break. This could be the time to set your current work aside and focus on something new. Is there an idea or project that excites you? A little distraction can go a long way. 

And lastly, don’t be too hard on yourself. Despite the obstacles, all writers need to persist. Your refusal to give up is your greatest strength – and your best bet for success. Good luck.